Category Archives: Birth Stories

Julie’s Birth Story: Last Minute Preparations

Normally, I advise my customers to start practising the techniques we teach as early as possible, so that by the time labour starts, everything falls into place automatically. So when Julie sent me this email after having seen me quoted in the Times, I wasn’t sure if we’d be able to help:

I am interested in the technique, although wondering if I may be too late… I have been having regular contractions last night, they faded away and started again this morning, I think baby might be coming today or tonight. Do you have material that I could listen to at this stage, with no time left for preparation? I have started relaxation and mindfulness exercises (a bit separate from specific birth preparation but still helpful) and had my second baby all natural (thankfully quickly). This is my third and it just occurred to me a bit late that hypno-birthing might be useful this time. Many thanks
Julie

Never one to shirk a challenge, and (as always) happy to offer our cast iron guarantee so that customers can decide how valuable the material we teach is for themselves, I replied:

Thanks for your email. At this stage, you would probably find the latter part of our workbook (tips/words to avoid etc) and birth rehearsal track of our programme useful.

Even though you’ve given yourself very little time to prepare mentally, the early stages of labour can often make the suggestions in the mp3s “sink in” better so you may still be able to get some benefit.

Staying relaxed and active is the key, and the good news is that if you had a quick and natural second, you’ve already got a positive experience to help you keep stress at bay.

I’ve never had someone start the programme this late, but am happy to just refund you if you go for it and find you were too late to get anything positive from it .

Good luck and best wishes
Heidi

To be honest, I fully expected to get my first refund request of 2013 in this case… so you can imagine how thrilled I was when I received this email 10 days later:

I would like to let you know that my son Camille was born on Tuesday 18th.

This gave me 5 days to prepare by listening to the tapes, reading and relaxing, whilst I was hoping everyday for the birth, each extra day of waiting has been a gift to help me relax and accept my baby’s own timing.

He weighs 10lb 2 (!!). He was born in the water and everything went very well. I will certainly not want a refund as your tapes and advice helped a lot. Despite a very quick birth at my second baby, this one took its time: there was a 13h latent phase during which I listened to the birth visualisation tape a few times as well as the music I had prepared. It helped me so much. I was able to “go to the special place” every time there was pain. My husband was with me all along and quietly helping (in between continuing his work to try to keep his mind busy!). Eventually the 2nd and 3rd phase were very quick (2h together) and I was able to give birth to my son in the pool. It was so nice. It was at the birth centre of St Mary’s hospital in Paddington in London. The midwives were amazing and very discreet whilst present. I am very grateful for this birth and thank you again for the material.

I hope many more women can enjoy this type of experience. Like you say in your booklet, birth is often presented as a horror story but really doesn’t need to be. Among my friend whilst many girlfriends respect my choice I read disbelief on their faces, why choose to go through all this pain? But the pain goes away and all that stays is the memory of a relaxed and intense time bringing this new little life and I would not have liked it any other way.

Sincere thanks to Julie for giving me permission to share her story, and for diving into the Blissful Birth programme. Her story just goes to show that it’s never too late to use Blissful Birth – even though I usually recommend starting as early as possible!

 

Laura’s birth story – the Birth of Jule in Germany

I’m always thrilled when I get to hear from mothers who have used our programmes, and below is a birth story I received from Laura from Germany who gave birth to baby Jule 14 months ago.

Laura used our self hypnosis for childbirth mp3 which helped her go into labour feeling positive and self-confident, and she came away from the experience feeling empowered.

And although she didn’t use our full Blissful Birth programme (which covers the pain control side of things in much more detail), she was able to avoid using an epidural, and gave birth in a warm pool by candlelight with just her husband and the midwife present.

Many thanks and congratulations to Laura; and over to her for the full birth story…


Jule’s Birth – 04.10.2008

I used the mp3s from the 25th week on. In the beginning I heard them every two to three days, later I listened to them every day and often again in the evening to calm down for a better sleep. They helped me very much in the preparation, they gave me self-confidence and a very positive feeling about my upcoming birth. I was looking forward to a calm, quick and wonderful birth at home with just my midwife and my husband.

I liked the music in the background and the carefully chosen words.

The whole pregnancy I was only three times at my ob/gyn, the rest of the care did my midwife.

One day after the due date at 1o’clock in the night I felt he first contractions which were very light and I decided to listen to the “Birth Rehearsal” again. Then I woke my husband and we started to get busy filling up the birth pool and setting up everything. I called my midwife who said, that if I did not need to concentrate during the contractions there was no need for her to come. So we decided to meet in the morning at the birthing centre or “birth house” as they are called in Germany if nothing changed because we had already set up a date for a CTG two days before.

I was in the water on all fours most of the time and did not get much sleep – compared to the contractions later they were not serious but nonetheless exciting for me as I never had felt any kind of contractions before as some women do in the last weeks.

We had an appointment with our midwife at 11 o’clock because of me being over the due date and chose with her on the phone that it would be early enough to see her then. We went there, everything was nice but the cervix only 2cm dilated which was disappointing for me after the whole night with contractions. We went out for a walk in the fields and then to the baker because it seemed we could use food for the following day and night. At the time I stopped shortly during the contractions and breathed, but lightly.

We went home again and drove to the “birth house” several times over the day for checking. In the evening I was in the pool again because the warm water made me feel so much better – it was a nice atmosphere with the pool in the living room and just going on a bit with normal life watching TV or talking although we knew what was coming up. It was easier to spend the time than it would have been in a hospital.

My midwife had given my a suppository to use if the contractions became more painful – I used it some times but it did not really help.

At 21 o’clock a midwife from the birth centre called because mine unfortunately did leave for her family holidays just at this day. But I knew the other one as well. She told me there was another women whose labour could start soon and we had to come because she was alone and could not handle two birthing women in two places. We went there but I was really disappointed and di not feel good with this – but no choice.

The cervix was still only 2-3cm dilated and once we were there, the contractions got more powerful – and more painful. I was breathing and singing during the contractions, my husband read to me from a children’s book we found there. I changed positions all the time, labour got more and more powerful. Acupuncture did not really have an effect on the pain.

At 23:30 I was on a point where I thought I could not stand it much longer and really really tired after one night without sleep. And it did not seem to get on which discouraged me. My midwife told me we could drive to a hospital and I could get a PDA there [a PDA is a type of epidural offered in Germany] and could sleep for a while. I thought about that but had never wanted this to happen – apart of it knew many women with complications after PDA, needing medication to enforce the contractions afterwards and it would take at least an hour until everything was done and the PDA could have an effect. And I could not imagine me in a car for twenty minutes with the contractions I had. My midwife had the idea that I go into the tub again and we’ll see what happens – why did we not think about this earlier?

Just one hour later she came to examine me and it were 7-8cm. I slept shortly in between the contractions. From there on I lost track of time.

After a total opening period of 27-28 hours, from which the last six were really intense, I could finally start pressing.

The pressing period was about twenty to thirty minutes only and Jule was born on 4:43 in the morning – without analgesia, in warm water, with candlelight and just me, my husband and our midwife. The midwife helped her dive up and turned her towards us, still in the water with her body. Jule looked at us without crying, just with very big interested eyes. She was breathing, everything was fine. Just a small noise came from her.

We got out of the tub very quickly, I felt exhausted but happy. We lay down in the bed with Jule and took some time for us. Nursing went great. After half an hour the midwife weighed and dressed her, everything still fine.

We slept for two hours all together in a big family bed in the birth centre. After six hours we packed everything and went back home.

Directly after the birth I was overwhelmed by the contractions, the pain that they had caused and how my body felt – so tired, kind of abused by the force that birth needs.

After some time I realized that everything went so great and that I managed all the birthing so well – supported by my husband who was with me all the time and did everything I asked for. I got out of this experience more powerful – I did it! And I did great!

We could stay out of a clinic which was my biggest wish – I’m studying medicine and spend enough time there to know how the birthing “business” there works.

I would use the blissful birth mp3s in my next pregnancy again and I am curious how the second birth will be, hopefully at home then.

Katie’s birth story – No Pain

In this birth story case study you’ll meet Katie, who used the Blissful Birth programme for the birth of her first two children, and is now using the Home Study version for her third!

Apologies for Rob’s tongue twisted start – we caught up with Katie in that rare moment of calm whilst the children were napping, so it is a ‘warts and all’ live and uncut recording. That’s his excuse, anyhow!

Speak soon,
Heidi

Ps. Please comment below & tell me what you think.

Please note: Names were changed to protect the confidentiality of the client.

Rebecca’s birth story – Lose the Fear

Rebecca came to one of our group classes to help her prepare for the birth of her second child. She was especially anxious and fearful about something going wrong in labour.

I’m sharing this case study because it shows how each person who uses the Blissful Birth approach finds one or more techniques which best suits their needs and they find particularly helpful, making their birth a more positive (and often faster) experience.

In this case, pain management was a way lower priority to Rebecca than losing the anxiety and feeling comfortable and in control.

Anyway, enough of me talking – here is what she had to say:


From: Rebecca
To: Heidi Woodgate
Subject: Re: Blissful Birth Enquiry

Hello Heidi,

Jack and I attended your Blissful Birth class in November last year and I just wanted to say thank you to you and your husband for the help you gave me to give birth to our son at the end of December.

You may recall I was very anxious about the birth of our 2nd child but it went really well and was extremely fast so I didn’t have any time to really worry. I think the main thing that helped me from the hypnotherapy was releasing fear in advance of the birth. It helped me get rid of a lot of negative expectations and images which meant that I was able to feel more positive about the birth. It was such a relief to have some of the weight lifted of my shoulders before he was born.

Personally, I did not experience the ‘removal or reduction of pain’ feelings that we were taught. It definitely felt like pain rather than discomfort but to be honest this was never an area I was too worried about so I did not focus too much practise on ‘turning down the pain’ e.g. the glove or dimmer switch technique. This may be because as long as I’m mobile I’m not too bothered about feeling pain. What did help me more during the labour was the smell association with being calm and well being. When I had the big contractions I would smell my band and it would just give me something warm to experience that smelt comforting.

Anyway, as I said before, I just wanted to say thank you and wish you well in your future courses as I am sure they will help many other mothers and fathers.

Thanks
Rebecca


We are hoping to do an audio call shortly with another one of our clients who has used Blissful Birth for both her children, and who has now just got a copy of the ‘home study’ version ready to prepare for her third!

We just need to find a time when we both have the same half an hour of peace and quiet – and with four kids between us, that is no small task, I can assure you.

Speak soon,
Heidi

Ps. Please comment below & tell me what you think.

Please note: Names were changed to protect the confidentiality of the client.